I told you….I might
actually get more than one blog entry out this year. Now, that is hope! A friend
and I were chatting and the subject of hope came up, something she has been
thinking about a lot lately. She had written the below, which I would really
like to share as in many ways, it really does hit home. The politics aside…the
important message is keep hope alive. We all talk about it…but do we really
practice it? We are constantly bombarded with news items that are just
shocking…how can the human race behave in such a way? And then, the media will
try and balance it out with a human interest story and we all say “Awww….” And then we forward it on Facebook and YouTube and emails
and tweets….and then promptly forget about it.
But how many of us
actually have true hope? And what is hope?
So, I admit, this
blog entry is the lazy man’s blog…in that I am not really the one that is
writing it. I am merely the vessel this time for someone that really should
PUBLISH HER OWN BLOG. Just saying…
“Hope”
by KTP
"When finally
forced to listen, they are unable to hear. I heard that on the radio the other
day and it struck a chord. Later that week I heard it in a song. He said “We
have the right to free speech, but we need to exercise our right to listen”
There are so many people involved in protests to occupy Wall Street. That turned
into people occupying EVERYWHERE. Yes, it’s a right, a right to assemble…with a
permit.
A friend sent me a
picture of “Occupy Norfolk”, it was two dirty hippies. Eventually the “weekend
protesters” showed up to help the hippies with their cause. The permit expired
and the city police had to come in and remove people. On the news I saw two cops
in riot gear carrying a chick out of the park as she was singing some protest
song, as if she was fighting for civil rights in the 60s. It rubbed me the
wrong way.
I’m all for
standing up for what you believe in and exercising your rights. However, I think
there are more important things to stand up for and speak about, to lobby for
and to find a solution for right now. That clip of the chick being carried out
keeps running through my mind. It seems as if they are all lemmings. It could be
a grass roots movement, but do they know what they are there for? Are they
really occupied every day with what’s happening on Wall Street? Do they realize
that climate change is happening, and fully understand the impact it will have
on where we live? Do they think about cleaning up the waterways? Or helping the
service men and women coming home, again, in our community? Or helping kids? Or
improving health care? Or education? Or unemployment? Or violence and crime in
our community? They are singing and chanting and making signs, but are they
listening? Are they trying to make a change, or just bitching and showing their
strange right to entitlement their generation, but more so the next generations,
seem to have. I don’t get it.
And why is it like
that? Has everything just been handed to everyone? Do parents just give in and
give kids whatever they want? Is life too easy? Is it too hard? Do we try as
much as we should? Do we work hard enough? Does a moral compass exist? Where is
the compassion I use to see?
HOPE?
Is the world so
messed up that we have given up? I know I feel like giving up on society. I feel
that way most of the time.
My friend gives me
hope. Hope for sunny days. Hope for the future. Hope for a change, a change for
the better. Hope that I won’t have nightmares and night terrors for the rest of
my life. Hope that I’ll be whole again. Hope that I’ll be strong someday. Hope
when we find small pockets of kindness and compassion.
I have had to slim
my search for hope down to noticing hope in very minute acts of kindness. Just
in a simple action of someone holding the door open for another person entering
or exiting a store. The fact they came out of their own little world for a
moment to look behind them, pause, hold the door open for someone, and hearing
that tiny response “thanks”. It’s dreadful how often that doesn’t happen. Or the
simple text message I get from a friend every morning to simply to wish me a
good day. That gives me a lot of hope.
I’m in no way
perfect. I know I’m a screw up. I try to be good, good as I can be. I try to pay
attention to what I do and say. I often do and say the wrong things. I try to
fix what I break. I try to apologize, be honest, be kind, and have compassion….
I try.
I hear hope in
children laughing. I see a glimpse of it when strangers say good morning. I saw
hope in a friend’s tear-filled eyes as I hugged him and whispered in his ear “I
got you”. I feel it when I skip rocks. I wish for it as I watch the sunrise on a
new day.
I have lost hope,
found it, set it on fire, lost it again. I feel so defeated. I’m starting my
own grassroots movement, my own “occupy something”. I’m trying to find hope
anywhere I can and spread it to one person at a time. Maybe they’ll hold the
door open for the next person, and maybe others will do the same. Maybe people
will stop seeing all the negativity and look for the positivity that is going on
around them.
Stop and listen,
there’s a revolution underway.”
I think she
completely nails it. We can all hope for the big things and changes in life. But
really, it’s the small things that matter the most. That is what real change and
hope are built on. It’s like that TV commercial that is a “pay it forward”
thing…it’s the little things that keep life and hope going. Could you imagine
what would happen if we all did something, even something small and seemingly
meaningless? But imagine if we ALL did that, what kind of impact would it have
on the world in general?
So,
what truly is hope? Is it wishful thinking? Is it an unwavering belief in
something, anything? What does hope mean to you? Hope to me also means to believe. You HAVE to believe in something, even if you believe in nothing. Without faith, and I don't mean religion, but the belief in something, we really all are nothing.
And here is a thought. What if we all gave up on hope? What if we all said, "Oh well, it's never going to happen to me, so why bother?" Giving up on hope and faith and the belief in something good, is giving up on life. I picture the bleak, dreary, gray non-existence of a post apocalyptic world.
And here is a thought. What if we all gave up on hope? What if we all said, "Oh well, it's never going to happen to me, so why bother?" Giving up on hope and faith and the belief in something good, is giving up on life. I picture the bleak, dreary, gray non-existence of a post apocalyptic world.
So, how does this
all apply to me? I think her last paragraph really speaks to me. I feel so much
like that….all part of the new ME. Sure, I can be mopey and woe-is me…but that gets you nowhere, and nowhere
fast. I am looking for my own “occupy something”. Instead of forwarding cute
little “aww” stories on Facebook…how about living and creating the “aww” stories? Make my own. I know it’s not Thanksgiving,
because I am not lying on the coach, bloated with my pants unbuttoned trying to
position myself so that I can even just breath because I am so freaking full…but
maybe it’s time for the “What I Am Thankful For” Checklist. I don’t really want
to list it out here now. Besides, what will I write about at Thanksgiving? But…I
am thinking about it in my mind.
During our chat
session, my friend also came out with this gem “….the other side of it. You
have to see and appreciate the little things people do for you too…” That is
so very true as well. Taking the time to stop thinking about me, me, me…and
realizing and accepting what others do for me. How they are generating their own
hope, and for me to really appreciate it and to let them know that I do.
So, seriously….this
blog entry really was written by KTP. I am just a really good cut and paster. But, it’s a lot of food for thought.
So…finally, she
also sent me a little poem thing (she was ON FIRE today!) which the last line I
feel like I should get tattooed somewhere (no suggestions from the Peanut
Gallery on where…but we know where it would fit….sigh….)
“Falling down is
part of life…Getting back up is living” Word.
Ok, and before
anyone’s knickers get in a twist….I think my next blogginess will be devoted to FRIENDS. (Not the TV
show…although that would really be super cool. I had a dream once that Rachel
and I were best friends and we were soooo cool!) But
Friends in life. What are friends and what they mean to me. YOU will definitely
know who YOU are….xoxox
Till
Soon…